If anyone knows me, they know that I strongly believe everyone and anyone could benefit from therapy. Whether it’s just one session or 10 years of therapy, here are 4 ways you could benefit from therapy:
1. Therapy teaches you vulnerability.
To be human is to be vulnerable. From the moment we’re born to the moment we pass on from this world, we need people and we need connection. Of course, even though we need something, that does not mean we are skillful at getting it. But we live in a vulnerable world. We fail tests, break bones, feel lonely, witness accidents, get sick, witness death, lose jobs, and so much more. Therapy teaches you how to flex and strengthen the “vulnerability muscles.” Every week, clients have to come in and share about themselves. It is difficult, but rewarding, and I give clients the utmost respect for doing it week in and week out. Practicing vulnerability in therapy makes it easier to share in the outside world, and therefore allows us to better get our needs met.
2. Therapy increases your awareness.
We all know the saying “Ignorance is bliss,” but is it really? Sure, the initial experience of hearing about something, particularly something negative, is unpleasant. However, if we don’t have awareness, we don’t have a choice. We are tossed to and fro in the waves of our own unawareness. Our emotions, thoughts, family patterns, etc. all take hold in ways we don’t realize; even if we don’t want them to! Without studying our personal histories and identifying the patterns, we fall back into those unconscious ways of operating, whether they are healthy or not. So really the saying, “If you don’t study history you are doomed to repeat it,” is a more accurate statement than the previous one.
3. Therapy enables you to handle awareness.
I am not so cruel as to make my clients aware of all the good, the bad, and the ugly
things in life and then just say “Good luck!” A good therapist will raise the awareness of what needs to be changed and then provide with the practical steps on how to do it. Sometimes the how to is simple deep breathing, sometimes it’s learning how to have more effective communication, other times it’s simply practicing how to live in the present tension. Either way, therapy will leave you feeling more empowered over your wellbeing.
4. Therapy teaches you kindness and empathy.
We don’t have to look too far to see that as a whole, we have a serious lack of empathy and kindness towards one another. We are quick to judge not only other people, but ourselves as well. Therapy allows us to be kinder and more curious with ourselves and our own struggles, which then allows for a growth that no amount of judgmental shaming can do. When we provide that space for ourselves, we are better able to offer it to others as well. Therapy can go to those “dark places” that people fear to go to, but the therapist provides the flashlight, the client leads the way, and then sure enough we’ll have made it out together on the other side. By having the courage to go and make it through our own dark places, we are equipped to bring that flashlight for our friends’ own adventure. Therapy allows us to shed light on others’ experiences with grace and understanding.
Therapy is truly for every person in every walk of life. It is an incredibly humbling experience that produces growth you would have never thought possible. That said, it is important to note that finding the right therapist can make this process smoother and easier. Stay tuned for a blog post on how to find the right therapist for you!
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